As we were walking on the street on a usual cloudy San Francisco morning my wife and I were enjoying a conversation about our child. Prior to moving to San Francisco, I only saw my family in the morning and at bedtime. Being an English teacher meant working from 830 am to about 830 pm. All jobs are based on contracts, so teaching is a component of the overall business. Where was I, yes, as we reflected on our lives and child my wife shared a story with me about children in Taiwan.
She said that in Taiwan there are children who are over protected and usually lack the necessary life skills for them to be productive and creative. There are stories where grandparents and parents try to fulfill every aspect of their kids lives but ignore the normal development process. For example, there are kids who can not tie their shoes in the third grade because they were never encouraged to learn to do it themselves. I have witnessed six-year olds who can not turn on the faucet or are afraid to use the bathroom alone.
This lead to our own upbringing and the challenges we must overcome in our family. We have to be self-critical and examine ourselves so we improve the life of our child. We continue to grow until we die. We die early when this process stops. It takes our communication and effort to improve our environment.
It’s a wonderful challenge because I’m force to bring my issues to the front and resolve them. It’s not simple or pretty to evaluate yourself periodically, but it makes your relationship find better pasture. It’s like when we exercise and feel tired the next day, but good and thankful at the same time. For me, this is life and it will go on.